Secrets for a Happy Marriage Life: Couples who make their marriage work are usually smart. They strive to keep themselves informed about the habits of other happy couples by reading and general observation. Ask any happy couple and they will tell you the secret to a good marriage is by living it, through all the ups and downs.
Here is a synopsis of my learning from the observation of several successful marriages:
Secrets for a Happy Marriage Life
1. Being happy is not always the top priority
Good events that provide you with pleasure are a matter of chance and one cannot rely on this for a good married life. The key here is to do things together that make you happy instead of waiting for it to happen.
2. Be there for each other
Many a times, a husband or wife may not know what to do in a difficult situation. The thing that makes the marital union strong is the presence of one spouse when the other is facing a stressful situation. This way they will learn to work problems out together.
3. Shake things up for a better outcome
Many a couple will tell you that a small tweak in their demeanor made a big difference in the outcome. Learn to make small changes in the way you react and the way you do things. This will go a long way in helping your married life.
4. A positive outlook makes a difference
As your actions have an impact on the marriage, so does your way of thinking. A poor and negative outlook will definitely mar things.
5. Your thinking changes the balance of your marital life
The way one partner perceives another and the expectations they have from each other will affect the balance of the marriage. Realistic expectations and common courtesy to your partner is important.
6. Be happy with what you have and work at making it better
Instead of longing for something you do not have, be contented with what you have. Instead focus on making things work within your marriage and enjoy the benefits.
7. Improve your married life by improving yourself
The one thing that you can do to improve your married life is improve yourself. Trying to change your partner is just setting yourself up for failure.
8. A good marriage is about doing not just feeling
Many a marriage has taken on a new lease of life not due to romantic declarations but due to the solid work that both partners have put into it.
9. Changing your mind can change your marriage
What this means is simply forget all old problems and forgive all the things that bother you. The more you hold on to it in your mind, the less space you will find for positive feelings towards your partner.
10. Each problem can be a new start
While it is scary to face your marital problems, you will find it impossible to keep your marriage going until you do so. The key is to hold on to each other and tackle the problem head on. Doing this will strengthen your marriage.